1. What people bring to counseling is often not the real problem -- 2. The unconscious mind : friend or foe? -- 3. The mixture of unconscious forces and childhood wounds can be lethal to marriage -- 4. Your family problems may have started back in medieval times -- 5. Unconscious forces can destroy not only relationships, but whole families -- 6. People who feel divorced but are still married -- 7. Games people play in relationships -- 8. Organizing problem-solving conversations -- 9. Extramarital affairs : silence, secrets, and self-disclosure / Edward Igle -- 10. Addictions : a vain attempt to make us feel whole / Daniel Hoffman -- 11. Our nervous systems and relational problems -- 12. Emotional detachment : the ultimate relationship destroyer / Tami L. Grovatt-Dawkins -- 13. So what now?.